tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692912614788067753.post8842613159066192857..comments2023-11-03T02:34:35.452-07:00Comments on la boudoir: Traditional TeacupsStacyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14828461965186000009noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692912614788067753.post-8522505289639420012010-01-24T18:24:54.984-08:002010-01-24T18:24:54.984-08:00Oh God... this post still has people crying 18 mon...Oh God... this post still has people crying 18 months later! Stumbled across this post and I relate to so much of what you have said... Your lovely Grammer! What a lovely tradition.beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15133200919584825155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692912614788067753.post-30106134529563967332010-01-08T21:28:37.814-08:002010-01-08T21:28:37.814-08:00I know you started this awhile ago, however it is ...I know you started this awhile ago, however it is absolutely critical. My mom, who passed away 13 years ago and was 42 when I was born, the last of 7 of which the last 5 were all girls was very traditional. She always gave a cup and hoped her daughters would receive cups. I know the tradition, however I never understood the reasons. My closest niece out of 25 nieces and nephews, is recently engaged. I have a claddagh cup that I have been holding on to for awhile to give her. However I wanted to tell her what the tradition was so that she could understand it. You have posted such a wonderful and clear explanation for a tradition to continue. Her fiance is 24 and just recently diagnosed with cancer. Things look wonderful, but your grandparents scenario may play a huge part someday. I have been married for 27 years and fully understand your grandparents thoughts as my husband is recently handicapped. It really is all about love and how true that can be. When it is that way, there really is nothing better or more important in life. Tradition only reminds us of how the basic things can put so much meaning into every day living. In these squirrelly times, we all have to adjust back to the basics love, life and compassion for others. We wouldn't have any of it without God's hand,but it is our choice to make the best of it. Thank you for sharing your story.katiebnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692912614788067753.post-23670822281482728592009-05-02T09:39:00.000-07:002009-05-02T09:39:00.000-07:00This story just reminds me of the timeless traditi...This story just reminds me of the timeless tradition that my family has passed on. My best friend is getting married and I feel kind of stilly giving her a teacup, but it meant so much to me, that I wanted to share this special tradition with someone I love. <br />I hope you marriage has been a year of bliss and thank you for posting this, it gives me the courage to give a "silly" gift.kendynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692912614788067753.post-50362806858950435542008-07-16T06:38:00.000-07:002008-07-16T06:38:00.000-07:00stumbled accorss your blog, and you've given goosb...stumbled accorss your blog, and you've given goosbumps and tears at work. loved this post. thanks for sharing! wish you an your husband a beautiful life together!*Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07252709061970252947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692912614788067753.post-70391606538711703782008-07-11T15:04:00.000-07:002008-07-11T15:04:00.000-07:00what a beautiful post. good luck with everything! ...what a beautiful post. good luck with everything! cheers to a wonderful marriage.Dottiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02833833976071309278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692912614788067753.post-18877346687329853492008-07-09T09:33:00.000-07:002008-07-09T09:33:00.000-07:00wow- really that stirred my heart all around in a ...wow- really that stirred my heart all around in a good way. How powerful and so full of stories is that one little tea cupbettyninjahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18374217999097706118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692912614788067753.post-2336024697810289312008-07-08T18:20:00.000-07:002008-07-08T18:20:00.000-07:00How wonderful! I collect antique yes cups! Two wer...How wonderful! I collect antique yes cups! Two were given to me by my Oma who has always collected them, around the time of my engagement but I never made the connection! Also I am super excited for you, want to see your dress, would love to do your hair and makeup, and generally talk wedding stuff anytime you want!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692912614788067753.post-59217274888442205162008-07-08T12:33:00.000-07:002008-07-08T12:33:00.000-07:00dude. you just made me cry. and i am so moving hom...dude. you just made me cry. and i am so moving home to seattle JUST to support you in your non traditional and still very important wedding.<BR/><BR/>ok, maybe that last part isn't true (because that would be a bit strange, after all), but i am sorry that your girls are not being YOUR girls when you need them the most :( that's always incredibly disappointing.<BR/><BR/>love the teacup tradition. love your story of love. and i need a dress update ;) <BR/><BR/>smile... you have your prince charming, and i'm sure your girlfriends will come around!cassandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03012231109141210455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692912614788067753.post-14432282386172464192008-07-08T08:14:00.000-07:002008-07-08T08:14:00.000-07:00I just love this post. I had tears at the end. I...I just love this post. I had tears at the end. I also agree with what Krissy said, about a life change causing some re-evaluation. That has happened to me.<BR/><BR/>If they don't come around, chalk it up to growing in different directions and move on to friends who will reflect your same interests and values. But I hope they do. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692912614788067753.post-28637251744931289642008-07-08T05:51:00.000-07:002008-07-08T05:51:00.000-07:00This is beautiful, thank you for sharing this with...This is beautiful, thank you for sharing this with us. I understand completely what you mean about the the tea cup, I also understand being alone to plan the wedding i did it all myself in a month....I too wanted to share some of it the experience with friends. it will be lovely, your day will be lovely and all that will dissapear..........i know this might be silly...but we love hearing about your plans, dress, flowers oh did you get peonies by the way?.....<BR/><BR/>what your grandmother shared with you about your grandfather is very special, I will remember it alwyas.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692912614788067753.post-68459086131046086802008-07-07T21:11:00.000-07:002008-07-07T21:11:00.000-07:00What a beautiful post and tradition. I am sorry to...What a beautiful post and tradition. I am sorry to hear that you've felt neglected by your closest friends. My husband and I chose to get married in Hawaii - just the two of us and honestly, beyond our parents and a few family members, we didn't even get a card! Oh well - I think there is something so special when it is as intimate as it is when it's so small - just you guys - I was married before - the big wedding and all - and it was pure performance. The second time was just about me and him.littlebyrdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00769222461364102029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692912614788067753.post-6836434867288257462008-07-07T19:04:00.000-07:002008-07-07T19:04:00.000-07:00what a sweet story - I have a soft spot for tea-cu...what a sweet story - I have a soft spot for tea-cups too :)Hilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06635628613744519816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692912614788067753.post-19765905605625993402008-07-07T18:10:00.000-07:002008-07-07T18:10:00.000-07:00Tears here.Grandmas are the bestTears here.<BR/><BR/>Grandmas are the bestHigh Desert Divahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06612606483622054573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692912614788067753.post-86209841211951193382008-07-07T17:55:00.000-07:002008-07-07T17:55:00.000-07:00love this post!love this post!heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09896915486353470418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692912614788067753.post-52479855596588505792008-07-07T16:48:00.000-07:002008-07-07T16:48:00.000-07:00What a beautiful post, and your grandmother sounds...What a beautiful post, and your grandmother sounds like a fabulous woman.<BR/><BR/>I work in the event biz and have witnessed many the bride (and bridesmaids, and mothers) having a meltdown over the stupidest wedding thing (flowers, napkins, etc) as if WORLD PEACE hinged on this one thing, and I wanted to slap them and remind them A Wedding Is NOT A Marriage. I think you are having the most sensible wedding ever, doing what you want and in the way you want and for the price you want, and it is a wonderful first step to a good marriage. I bet some of your girlfriends are at a loss because there is no role for them, so they don't know how to process this event in your life. And I agree with Stephanie, in this age of texting and emailing, we forget how to have interpersonal contact.<BR/><BR/>So congratulatons, and may your doorstep be flowing in teacups.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14963564417866585477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692912614788067753.post-58499812039090170052008-07-07T15:55:00.000-07:002008-07-07T15:55:00.000-07:00Your grandmother sounds like a remarkable woman.Th...Your grandmother sounds like a remarkable woman.<BR/><BR/>The difficult thing about getting married is finding that balance between going your own way and creating your own path and managing to connect to whatever traditions you need to to make something real. The lovely thing is that something as small as a teacup can do it.<BR/><BR/>Friends can be funny about weddings, whether it is a big to-do or not. The important thing is that if you have roots together that twine deep enough, you can usually find forgiveness. <BR/><BR/>(and I think they way you are celebrating your wedding is brilliant - a wedding is only a day, a party, a send off, after all. Marriage is the good stuff - the days together building your lives. I would send you a teacup if I could!)evenclevelandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16338164103202396208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692912614788067753.post-45993761336077684212008-07-07T15:20:00.000-07:002008-07-07T15:20:00.000-07:00I love this tradition...I may have to start it.I love this tradition...I may have to start it.Mrs.Frenchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15538695099376546483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692912614788067753.post-17285732486633218382008-07-07T15:04:00.000-07:002008-07-07T15:04:00.000-07:00I am loving this story of your Grammer. So sweet....I am loving this story of your Grammer. So sweet. My mom and I have inherited my gram's tea cups...she got her original ones the same way yours did...I couldn't possibly part with them! Grammer's words of wisdom are amazing.<BR/><BR/>I am sorry your friends have thrown a bit of a curve ball at your happiness. I hate to sound all grandmotherly myself, but in this age of email, texting, blogging, etc., I think we've really lost touch with how to "be" someone's friend. It just sucks when you have something amazing going on (like your wedding) and everyone's nose is likely buried in their computers or overscheduled lives. <BR/><BR/>Anyway...enough rambling. I love your blog and am so glad to have recently found it.Laura @ the shorehouse.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15442672928319257413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692912614788067753.post-77841051950684862822008-07-07T14:35:00.000-07:002008-07-07T14:35:00.000-07:00oh.my.gawd. i'm seriously crying! that is the swee...oh.my.gawd. i'm seriously crying! that is the sweetest thing I've ever read. from now on, i will give teacups. and when i get home, i'm going to hug my husband!<BR/><BR/>i can tell you, girl friends are so important, but you know what? i don't have any. i have lots of girl friends, but no real ones. sometimes a big life change can bring out who people really and make you take a step back to re-evaluate who your friends are. i hope they come around for you :)Krissy | Paper Schmaperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00206511718442429461noreply@blogger.com